“It's important to understand your ownership pattern because it is an expression of the values that guide your life. The question of what you want to own is actually the question of how you want to live your life.” – Marie Kondo
From your phone to your home, we’re sharing tips and tricks to help you konmari your life for more organized, balanced and intentional living.
Konmari Your Goals – Start with the end in mind.
Grab a pen and paper and take 20 minutes to consider your most important goals for the year. Don’t get caught up in the details, and don’t attempt to self-regulate or negotiate. This stage is not the place for compromise or negotiation. The outcome of this exercise should be similar to the answer to “What would I attempt to do if I knew I could not fail?”
Identify 1-3 goals that you would like to achieve by the end of the year. Be clear about your purpose for the next 12 months and map out a step-by-step plan, down to your daily schedule. Be sure to identify key milestones and action tasks.
Next, revise this list, ruthlessly. If there's a task that seems like busy-work, get rid of it. These are thing like changing the font on your resume, unless your CV is written in Comic Sans there are a lot more impactful steps you can take to land your dream job. Carefully consider which tasks will propel you toward your ideal life and prioritize 3 to start working on immediately.
Konmari Your Space – Clear your space, clear your mind.💭
If you’re aiming for clarity and simplicity, it’s important that your external space reflects and promotes those values.
Your ability to take action is deeply influenced by your physical space. That’s why it is essential to have a space that streamlines your most important daily actions. Want to have less phone time? Create a charging space for your electronic devices outside of your bedroom. Want to exercise more? Store your gym clothes in a duffel bag that you leave in your car or at your job. Want a calm, paced and peaceful morning? Carve out a space to hang your keys and briefcase or purse for the next morning. Keeping your belongings in a designated area will save you time, giving you more room in your schedule to do the things that matter most.
Food for thought
Take a moment and take inventory of the objects around you. Consider your current space, how does it make you feel? Given your current space, what activities are easy to accomplish? What activities are difficult?
What is one change you can make to the room you spend the most time in that would make it easier for you to take action on your most important goal?
Konmari Your Closet – Possessions = Emotions
Our possessions have the ability to evoke emotions. If you find your wardrobe makes your feel sloppy or lazy it’s a great time consider donating items and replacing them with clothing better aligned with the identity you want to project. ⠀⠀
Activity: To start, get every clothing item you own out and in the open. When going through them reflect on the following questions:
- How do I feel when I wear this piece of clothing? - Do you feel comfortable? Polished? Confident?
- Can I wear this again? - Does it have a hole? Is it smelly? Stained? Does it even fit? These are all practical questions that may indicate it’s time to recycle your clothing items.
- Have I worn this in the past year? - If there’s something you still love but haven’t worn in ages it might be time to consider cashing in on your investment. This question will help weed out items that may be valuable to others, but no longer suit your lifestyle or needs. Set these items aside to list on your favorite resale site.
- Do I want to keep this? - Focusing on what you want to keep can be less daunting than deciding what you should throw out. Spend your time identifying items you love, rather than focusing on items you may have ambivalence about.
At the end of this activity, all your clothing should be sorted into one of the following categories:
- Keep - This pile is for the staples in your wardrobe; items you can’t go without.
- Donate- Gently used items you no longer wear, want or need.
- Store Away - Seasonal items you don’t plan on wearing again anytime soon, weather permitting.
- Sell - Quality items in good condition that you haven’t worn in a while like that dress/suit you’re still holding onto for a “special occasion.” If done properly, doing this once is enough for the entire year.
Konmari Your Relationships – Who to know will help you grow🧍🏻♀️🧍🏾♂️
It’s easy to tidy your belongings, but how do you go about sorting out the parts of your life that aren’t readily seen? How do you know when your social life requires an overhaul?
Just like material goods, people and places may outlive their utility. Whether it is a job you took to gain a specific experience or skillset, or a friendship you’ve simply outgrown, the time may come when the experiences you have gained thus far exceed any future value you will receive.
Below are some prompts and questions to get you thinking about the relationships in your life.
Think of the 5 people you spend the most time with, both professionally and personally and consider the following:
- Do these relationships propel you towards your goals or distract you?
- What relationships do you need to let go of?
- Now think of 5 people you wish you could spend more time with. Where could you carve out more space for them? How can you invest more into these relationships?
- Who do you consider to be a mentor?
- Who do you turn to for advice? If you were in a bind, who would you reach out to for help? ⠀⠀
- Where do you go for a sense of community? How do you give back to that community?
Your relationships should allow you the opportunity to learn and grow, while also providing you a chance to teach and serve others. It’s important to regularly ensure that your current your relationships align with your present desires, needs, and ideals for life.
Konmari Your Digital Life – It's okay to take a vacation from your 📲
Most of us can stand to be a little less connected with the world. With so much of our life spent online, it's important to conduct a digital detox every now and again. Here are our favorites tips and tricks to unplug and live a more present life.
- Unfollow 5 accounts that do not inspire you - Any account that makes you unhappy, even by a little, needs to go. Take a moment to unfollow 5 accounts on social media that don’t contribute to your happiness or development.
- Work in Full-Screen Mode - Placing your laptop in full screen mode can help weed out distractions while keeping you focused on the task at hand. It helps to minimize distractions and the pesky temptation to open 30 more tabs.
- Do Not Disturb - Set your phone to do not disturb once you get off from work to make room for intentional living. Turning off notifications for a set period each day, ex. from 8 PM to 8 AM, can help free up time for a passion project or for self-care.
- Unsubscribe from unnecessary newsletter subscriptions - Every time you get an email take an extra second to decide if it is inline with your current values and goals. Trying to save money? Unsubscribe from all emails lists notifying you of sales.
- Upload to the Cloud - Take a day to go through your files and upload any files you’d like to keep, but don’t need access to daily, on the cloud. This will free up storage on your hard drive while still preserving any files you may need future access to.
- Commit to unplugging - Take 24 hours to live phone-free. Take it even a step further and minimize your social media intake to one app or a predetermined time during each week. This will allow you to take pleasure in the apps you love guilt-free while still ensuring they don’t take over your life.
Don't forget set a reminder in your phone to revisit this activity around the same time next year! You'll be surprised how a little goes a long way.